Living with husbands family

[Aaminah]

Why would she hesitate here and not if it was her own parents?

Right, she should not hesitate. But on the other hand she should not be forced, as she is not religiously obligated. She may have valid reasons to not be able to help out as much as preferred.

Son bears more responsibililty because he's the son comes from Islam. You won't find islamic specificaly spell it out for you. But if you put 2 and 2 together then you'll have your answer. The son and his wealth belongs to his father. It is the son who has the means to support and take care of his parents.

I think other people, especially daughters, would "put 2 and 2 together" and come up with the idea that both daughters and sons are equally responsible for parents.

They [the daughters] too help as well but they can only do so much. Their time is limited as well as their wealth.

And sons can only do so much. Taking care of parents is not only financial. How many sons do you see bathing and dressing their elderly parents? Or cooking for them and taking them to the restroom? Both sons and daughters have responsibility, and whoever it is easiest and most convenient for should help.

But i'm also stating the facts here, most men will spend more freely on their own parents then their in-laws.

I still disagree; I have a higher opinion (I hope I'm not wrong) of most men.

And the in-laws have their own sons to do the same as well.

Um, no, not everyone has sons.

[Muslima4life]

Did he read this post?

[Ashfaq]

This was intresting topic, why nobody wrote on this since last year? I want to learn more on this.

[Perpage09]

I leave the submission to my wife Jenny. Its addressed to her not me. Husbands love your wives is addressed to me. She does try to submit but I would say that it is only needed at certain junctures not constantly. We are pretty equal unless a real conflict comes up. If we cant move forward by discussion and I am convinced of the rightness of something then she will submit at that point in the end. She will not submit if I am not even sure myself of something. There would be no point. There is plenty or room for differences of opinion but when a decision has to be made, having talked everything through and still no agreement, then she will submit. If she has a better idea obviously I would go with what she thinks, so there is plenty of room for good ideas. It is nothing to do with domination or obey me or else as some sites try to suggest. It settles things and does bring order when it happens. Raymond