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    Assalam ou'aleykoum.

    I need advice barak Allahou fikoum.

    First, please forgive me for my englush , I don't speak very well.

    Recently, a sister presents me a brother who wants get married. So we talk and I really appreciate him. For me he has many things I search in my futur husband.

    I talk about him to my parents, but they refused to meet him because they don't know him and they said that they can't investigate about him. ( I live in south of France and he lives in north).

    My father said in Islam it's forbidden to married a woman to a unknown man. Someone tell him in time of sahabas when a man wants married with a woman, he was tested during a year. This argument justify his refusal.
    I never heard this, but I just ask my father to meet my pretender.

    I don't know what I can do or say for convince my father to meet him.

    Have you some advice please?

    Barak Allahou fikoum.

    Assalam ou'aleykoum.

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    Wa'alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

    Just remind them of the hadith that they should not refuse a suitable suitor. At least, they should get to know him before they make up their minds.

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    Good idea always...

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    Also, one could talk to the local imam to talk to your wali for you and advise him not to dismiss a good prospect before even meeting.

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    Assalam ou'aleykoum.

    Barak Allaho fikoum for your advices.

    My father is now in Morocco. Insha Allah I'll talk to imam and see what I should do.

    Wassalam ou'aleykoum.

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    insha'Allah!

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    Ask your father where he found that?

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    Walaikum Assalam, i think this post is already closed but the question you asked is very nice and we must know about these kinds of condition.


 

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